A Simply Way to Make a Good First Impression - Smile

Whenever you go out-of-doors, draw the chin in, carry the crown of the head high, and fill the lungs to the utmost; drink in the sunshine; greet your friends with a smile, and put soul into every handclasp. Do not fear being misunderstood and do not waste a minute thinking about your enemies. Try to fix firmly in your mind what you would like to do; and then, without veering off direction, you will move straight to the goal. Keep your mind on the great and splendid things you would like to do, and then, as the days go gliding away, you will find yourself unconsciously seizing upon the opportunities that are required for the fulfillment of your desire, just as the coral insect takes from the running tide the element it needs. Picture in your mind the able, earnest, useful person you desire to be, and the thought you hold is hourly transforming you into that particular individual... Thought is supreme. Preserve a right mental attitude - the attitude of courage, frankness, and good cheer. To think rightly is to create. All things come through desire and every sincere prayer is answered. We become like that on which our hearts are fixed. Carry your chin in and the crown of your head high. We are gods in the chrysalis. Continue reading...

Dating another woman

和另一女人約會？ 結婚了廿一年後，我發現了一種別出心裁的方法， 可以讓愛的火花永保新鮮。 不久以前，我和另一位女士約會，其實那還是我妻子的主意， 有一天她說：「我知道你很愛她。」

我很驚訝，立刻爭辯說： 「但我愛的是妳呀！」「我知道，但你也愛她呀！」

我妻子要我去看的女士是我的母親。 她已經寡居了十九年，然而我忙碌的工作和身為二個孩子父親的責任，令我分身乏術， 以致很少有時間和她相聚。 那晚，我打電話給她，邀約她第二天和我一起吃晚餐和看電影。

「怎麼了，你還好嗎？」她問道。 母親是那種會認為晚上那麼晚打電話，又突然邀約她 ，一定不會有什麼好事的人。

「我想如果有機會和妳單獨約會，一定很有意思。」我回答。

她想了一會兒，然後說：「我非常樂意。」

那個星期五下班以後，我開車去接她時，心裡有一點緊張， 因為從未嚐試過這樣的約會。 當我到達她家時，我看她對這樣的約會，似乎也有一點緊張。 她在門內等著，身上穿著大衣，裡面那件禮服 還是最後一次慶祝結婚紀念日所穿的呢！ 她的頭髮還特意捲了一下，臉上的微笑像天使一般。

上了車後，她得意洋洋地說：「我告訴我的朋友，我要和我的兒子外出約會， 他們都好羨慕，迫不及待要聽聽我們約會的情形。」 
我們去一家雖不豪華，但十分雅致，溫暖舒適的餐廳。 我母親挽住我的臂彎，好像第一夫人一般。 入座以後，我必須幫她看菜單點菜， 因為她的眼睛現在只有大的字才看得見。 用餐一半時，我抬起頭來，看到母親正在凝視我， 嘴角帶著懷舊的笑容說：「記得當你小時候，總是我為你看菜單的。」 「那現在妳正好可以休息，輪到我來為妳服務了。」我回答。

一面享用晚餐，我們一面聊天，聊得很愉快， 談了許多最近幾年來，各自生命中的一些事。 我們聊得太久了，所以趕不上電影。當我送她回到家門口， 她說「我要再和你一起外出，但下次讓我作東好嗎？」我答應了。

回家後，妻子問我：「你的晚餐約會如何？」 
「非常有意思，比我想像的好多了！」~我回答。

 幾天以後，母親因心臟病猝發而去世。這事發生得太突然了， 讓我完全措手不及。

 不久以後，我收到一封信，裡面是上次我和母親約會的那家餐館的一張收據，上面有一 張字條寫著： 「我已先付了賬，因為我確定自己不可能再有機會去了，但我還是付了兩人份的賬──你和你的妻子。 你絕對想不到那一晚的約會對我有多大的意義，我愛你。」

從那一刻起，我深深體會，一定要及時說： 「我愛你」，並且要常常撥出時間給我們所愛的人。 世上沒有任何事比自然如來因緣和你的家庭更重要， 多花時間和他們在一起，因為這事絕不能拖延到「以後有時間時?」。

「樹欲靜而風不止，子欲養而親不待」是人生一大憾事。

聖經不是也告訴我們嗎？ 「凡事都不可虧欠人，惟有愛，要常以為虧欠， 因為愛人的，就完全了律法。」 Continue reading...

Decide to be Happy

Another excerpt from Raymond Charles Barker's The Power of Decision: No one is happy twenty-four hours a day. But, too many are happy too few hours a day. The happier you are, the greater the basic patterns of satisfaction are being built in your subconscious. Once you have a real satisfaction pattern, you will live more easily and certainly more prosperously. Not that you will not have problems, but the problems will not get as much of your emotional attention and thus they will be more easily solved. Your mental attention stays on the level of solutions, not on the level of problems. Worry is reduced to a minimum, and faith in the goodness of mankind is expanded. You have moved from the level of fight, pressure and argument to the level of directed attention on positives followed by intelligent right action. This is the way life was meant to be lived. Continue reading...

I am Consciousness

An excerpt from Raymond Charles Barker's The Power of Decision:

I know hundreds of people who have proven this larger I am consciousness concept to be the turning point in their lives. It reversed their whole basis of making decisions. They ceased their worship of the past. They ceased their fear of the future. They cancelled out all fear of death. They decided to be cause to their world because they now realized that they were their world. They were no longer people experiencing life. They were Life experiencing itself. They were their own saviors and their own saints. They needed no messiahs. Knowing themselves in God, as God, they placed no lesser gods before themselves.

Not so the materialist. He needs his other gods. He needs another to show him the way, to promise him salvation. He needs a heaven and a hell to frighten him into behaving with sense. He needs to believe that Someone else is greater than he is. He needs another person's model, pattern and plan.

I am consciousness frees you from all this. It causes you to emerge into the larger consciousness wherein you are the All, and the All is what you are. You are willing to be your own heaven and your own hell. You know you are your only redeemer out of the old into the new. You seek not heaven by another man's route. You are the heaven you seek and you awaken unto it, realizing your eternal experience in it. It has never left you, but you have closed your eyes to it. Now your eyes of perception are open, and that which you never left is seen. At night when you sleep, you dream the dream. In the morning, you awaken to the bed and the bedroom you never left. The dream may have been pleasant or horrendous, but you never left the bedroom nor the bed. Continue reading...

One Day Reversal (Jesse Livermore)

A One Day Reversal occurs where the high of the day is higher than the high of the previous day, but the close of the day is below the close of the previous day, and the volume of the current day is higher than the volume of the previous day (at least 50% more than average). Continue reading...